Like it or not, we are social creatures who crave human connections (yes, even you extreme sensitives and introverts need connections). It is hardwired into our brains because we need to work together to ensure the survival of our species. It only makes sense then that forming and maintaining those connections has an internal reward built in. On the flip side, when we spent too much time isolated and alone we start to feel sad, depressed and if that isolation lasts too long, we can go mad.
And it is our interaction with other people more than anything else that brings us happiness. It isn’t the amount of money we make or have stashed away in a bank account. It isn’t the big house, the fancy car, and all the stuff we accumulate over the years. What makes most humans happy is spending time and sharing experiences with other people.
Not every personal connection makes us happy. There are plenty of people we don’t particularly enjoy spending time with, but we do it for a variety of reason. We do it to work together on a project at the office, because they are our neighbors, or because belong to an organization that you also belong to. Maybe not people who are friends or who we would choose to spend time with. Yet, there are still benefits to these relationships. We challenge each other and become better people, and better contributors to society at large when we collaborate.
When we are with people we love and whose company we enjoy on the other hand, we get a lot of joy, satisfaction, and happiness out of those interactions. We have evolved into beings who crave the mental, social, and physical connections. There’s a reason almost everyone appreciates a heart-felt hug.
Spending time with people who love and encourage us, and those that challenge us, and make us push harder, help us grow as human beings. We get better when we have cheerleaders and mentors around us. You become the average of the five people you spent the most time around. Pick those around you wisely if you want to grow as a person. If your goal is happiness, spend as much time as you can with happy, positive people.
And please, make sure you nurture those close relationships with family and friends. Those connections will help boost your happiness and make you feel like you are part of something bigger that gives even more meaning to your life.
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